As a recovering scientist I feel an intense need to quantify absolutely everything. So I’ve decided to quantify and grade my life. Yes, I know that some people might say that there are things in life that can’t be quantified, but I think that’s just a load of crap. For example, I remember when I was a kid and someone would ask me how much I loved them. I would hold out my hands a distance apart and say “this much.” I think I was on to something. Do I love someone only a foot? Or maybe eighteen inches?
I have divided my life into 4 areas, each worth 25 points (clever how I made it add up to 100, isn’t it) and then scored myself within each category based on how I think I’m doing.
Personal Relationships (15/25)
I’ve divided this up into three sub categories: family, friends, and romantic relationships each worth 8 points. (I also gave myself a free point for bearing my emotional soul on the internet to a few complete strangers).
Family: 5/8
My family has been a huge source of love and support throughout my life. Unfortunately I live across the country from them and so we don’t get together as often as I’d like. I also took off a point or two because lately we haven’t been taking very much and when we do, my mom would rather talk about the weather, her knitting group, or what she’s had for lunch than hear what’s going on in my life. Although those are all incredibly important and fascinating topics it’s kind of depressing.
Friends: 7/8
I’m very lucky to have a group of very close friends who are amazing. They patiently listen to my ranting and raving and pretend to laugh at my jokes.
Romantic relationship: 2/8
This is definitely an area of my life that sucks. I’m living with my boyfriend of 6 years but I’m planning to move to another city for my internship and I’m not sure what the future holds for us. Plus it seems like everyone and their mother is getting engaged and married right now, which just reminds me of the instability of my current situation.
Finance & Career (12/25)
Finance 1/12
I have zero money saved toward retirement (and I assume that social security won’t exist by the time I retire). By the time I finish school I’ll have over 200k in debt. Based on some back of the envelope calculations, if I pay $3000 per month it’ll take about 10 years to pay off! It’s insane. I’ve decided to invest in lottery tickets and learning how to count cards for blackjack.
Career 10/12
I’ve got an internship lined up for the summer at a top company and as long as I don’t mess up it will lead to a great job that pays well, although nothing can pay well enough to take care of that kind of student debt.
Physical Health (20/25)
At first I was going to give myself a 25/25 because I work out a decent amount, usually eat sort of reasonably, and quit smoking a few years ago. Plus I was getting depressed after thinking about the student loans (see above) and I wanted to give myself a high rating in at least one category. But then I had to deduct some points because 1. I haven’t been to a doctor for a checkup in about 5 years 2. I haven’t been to the dentist in about.. brace yourself… 8 years 3. I’ve had chronic hives for the last 7 years and 4. I’m super weak and unable to open jars without the aid of someone of the male persuasion.
Happiness & Mental Health (16/25)
I’m turning 30, I have a few grey hairs, no money and a ton of debt and my romantic relationship leaves something to be desired so I’m not doing cartwheels down the hall. On the other hand, I’ve been putting lots of energy into the things that do make me happy like exercising and spending time with friends. I think that I’ve learned how to deal with stress pretty well (although the chronic hives might suggest otherwise). Areas for improvement include my glass-half-empty attitude, feeling gratitude, and expressing empathy towards others.
Total: 63/100 D
I’d say that this pretty accurately reflects where I am right now. Things aren’t terrible but they could be a lot better. Going through this exercise has actually helped me to think about specific things that I’d like to improve and has also caused me to recognized the many things in my life that I’m happy about.
The first step to solving problems is to identify them. Sometimes that’s the hardest part – looking yourself in the mirror and seeing your real self, warts and all.